Jam it Damn It: Some Simple Rules for the First Time Jammer

It has been nearly a month since the Mid-Atlantic Jam, and some of your might be sick and damn tired of reading posts about it, but as I have said many a time before, when you write your own blog you can write about whatever the hell you want. I am choosing to do one more post on the jam! Even though the Mid-Atlantic has passed, I know that there are a lot of After Dark VIPs planning on attending the Dallas jam coming up in October. For some of you it might be your first jam and I am here to help!

The following post could go by a lot of different titles. SL Music Jams for Dummies. So You Want to Attend an SL Music Jam: A Beginner’s Guide. Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About SL Music Jams but Were Afraid to Ask. SL Music Jam 101: A Primer. The list could do on and on, but I have decided to go with Jam it Damn It: Some Simple Rules for the First Time Jammer.

Note: There will be a crap ton of things that I leave out here, I am not writing a novel for crap’s sake! If you feel that I have neglected to mention something that you feel is super important feel free to add it in the comments! I would also like to note, that these rules apply to the jam itself. It is assumed that you are able to figure out how to register and get there on your own!

Jam it Damn It: Some Simple Rules for the First Time Jammer.

Congratulations! You have committed to attending a SL music jam! You are in for the time of your life, assuming that you enjoy amazing music and fun people! Here are a few “rules” that can help you make the most of your experience!

  1. Be prepared to meet lots of new people. Some you may know from Secondlife. Some you may have never heard of before. All of them have one thing in common though, a love of music and that alone makes them pretty awesome! “But Tyche, my ex-lover/crush/frenemy or any other number of kinds of people will be there and that makes me nervous!” Suck it up buttercup! Here is a totally cool thing that happens at jams, people just generally get along! So what if you have a past with someone, either embrace it or let it fall by the wayside, but do not let it be the focus of your weekend!
  2. You don’t have to drink to have a good time…….BUT, should you decide to imbibe, make sure that you stock up as soon as you arrive. Constant runs to the store for more booze is a bummer.
  3. Brace yourself to meet people that you see as rock stars, Most of them are really damn modest and seem to not understand why people get all “Squeeeee” when they meet them. Just make sure you meet them! You can do this one of two ways. You can talk the calm on the outside but screaming on the inside approach. OR You can do what I do and basically attack. Let me give you an example: At the Mid-Atlantic Jam I saw Twinghost standing in the hallway right after he arrived. Poor man still had his gear on his back. I, not casually at all, slapped Harley Wytchwood on the back and pointed. She turned, gasped “Is that…”. I nodded and bolted for the door. Nearly trampling Voodoo Shilton, I got all up in Twinghost’s face and squealed “I am so excited to meet you!!!!”
  4. Let your fangirl/boy flag fly! If you are a huge fan of someone, let them know! Sit on the floor RIGHT in front of the performance area when they are performing. Applaud extra loud. Sing along to their tunes that you adore. If that is not your style then just make sure that you take the time to tell them how much you appreciate their work in a more demure manner.
  5. Don’t over do it. This rule applies to so many aspects of jamming but I would like to concentrate on two. Partying: party on, yo, but know when to say when, You should still have the ability to drag yourself back to your room at the end of the night. And for the love of all that is good, don’t let the booze turn you into a blubbering mess! The only tears that should be seen at a jam are tears of sheer joy! Overzealous fanning: Be a fan. Show you love. Don’t be clingy. Don’t bogart a musician’s time. Chances are there are a lot of people who want a chance to have their few minutes to hang with that same musician.
  6. HAVE FUN! Jams are what you make them! If you are game to have a good time, then a good time will be had! Relax, let your hair down, groove to the sweet, sweet tunes!

It is as simple as that! OMG! There is one thing I forgot and it is merely a personal belief of mine, but I think many would agree. Gentlemen, a speedo is NEVER a good idea for a jam…..EVER!

Tyche’s Torrid Jam Affair (or How to make a jam virgin feel awkward.)

 

Before I tell you this torrid tale of seduction  and sass, I feel the need to mention a few things. As is sometimes my style, I might be making some things up, or embellishing actual facts. People in the writing community call it “creative license”. I call it “bullsh*tting”. Since I will be BSing I have taken the liberty of altering the name of the object of my desires so as to protect the poor, innocent little thing. Oh, and one more thing, there was a lot of alcohol involved in the weekend, so things will almost definitely be all sorts of out of order from how they actually took place.

I cannot recall the exact moment that I met Youngson Likessomebeer, but I am certain that I was smitten from the start. I do remember the moment when I vowed to him that I would expend a large amount of energy on him. This energy would not be expended in the typical way one would expect within a torrid affair. Oh no! This energy would be expended in multiple attempts to make him feel completely awkward.

One of the first attempts came as we were snuggled in the back seat of a car. Our bellies were full of Buffalo wing goodness, the sun was setting, there were three of us crammed into the backseat, it was the perfect setting for a romantic moment. In Tyche fashion I seized said moment, threw my arm around Hungson Grabssomerear, pulled him in tight and whispered into his ear all sexy-like “Feeling awkward yet?” He flashed a grin, laughed and replied “I really don’t think there is anything you can do to make me feel awkward.” “GAME ON!” I yelled with the ferocity of a woman who knew what she wanted! Game on, indeed!

Later that evening, as we were enjoying some sweet, sweet tunes I approached Boy Wonder and stood dangerously close. The tension was palpable. “Feeling awkward yet?” I asked with a serious stare. He leaned in even closer, eyes locked on mine, faces but inches apart, the look on his face serious as a heart attack, then proceeded to cover my face with a blast of air from his nose. This type of display might have thrown a lesser cougar off of her game but I am not one to be deterred that easily.

There was a super special moment, one whose time I cannot place, but one that needs to not be forgotten. Several people were hanging out in the object of my affection’s room. He was sitting on the corner of one of his beds (of course he had two, he is just that cool!). I thought my moment of achieving absolute awkward had arrived. I jumped onto the bed, grabbed him and hollered “BIG SPOON!”. I just knew that would get him. I was wrong, so very wrong. Not only was he not phased by my advances, but he took it as a chance to pose in a pretty damn model like manner!

As the night grew later, the time for the beer tasting party, hosted by Drunkson Grababeer, grew close. Room 526 needed to be prepped and when he asked me to help him with his shower I was all over that! I will not go into details, but let me just say that there were garbage cans full of ice and lots of beer. Let your imagination take that where it may! Several attempts were made through that night to make the awkward happen, but to no avail. Not even the wet willie when I hugged him good night worked. I was starting to feel discouraged. Maybe he was right. Maybe I could not make him feel awkward!

Sunday morning arrived with the haze of a hangover. As I packed up for the trip home I was struck by a genius idea. It had to work! The only thing that concerned me was the thought of “Would I be able to pull it off?”. I knew that I had to try. It was my last chance and I am not one to give up. Goodbyes were being said, hugs given, wishes of safe journeys and such. There he was sitting across the jam room. Hunson Abadeer-intheheadlights. I told Meegan my plan and made sure that she had the camera ready then I went in for the kill. I sauntered up to the young thing and in a sultry, sensual, half of a voice I demanded “Get the f**k up and give me a hug! We are leaving!”. He stood, we embraced, it was beautiful. I pulled back and told him that he had won, I had failed at making him feel awkward. He stared me down as he had done earlier in the weekend. I swiftly grabbed his face and planted a big ‘ol smooch on him. (In spite of the look of the photo, it was a completely closed mouth kiss, I have some class. people! Meegan managed to capture my smile right before I laid it on him!)

 

I had done it! He was stunned, confused and feeling more than a little awkward! Game, set, match! As is customary in battles of the awkward, I was awarded the gold star beads and I wore them with the utmost pride during the journey home!

Random Jamdom

“What happens at the jam stays at the jam!” If you have ever been to a SL music jam you will hear that a lot. As far as I am concerned, that is utter BS! Unless there is a jam held in Vegas I am of the opinion that what happens at the jam (in public, at least. Lordy no one wants to know what is happening behind closed doors!) gets blogged!

The Mid-Atlantic Jam this year was far too amazing for just one blog post. No, just one will not do. There will be several. They will be silly, nostalgic, touching, maybe even disturbing. Some will be loaded with pictures, some will just a mess of words. But I digress…

Even though I am not a believer in “What happens at the jam stays at the jam” I do understand that when adults are ingesting large amounts of alcohol, they might not feel the need to or have the ability to filter the things that come out of their flapping jaws. I have taken it upon myself to compile a list of things heard at the jam that tickled me. Some of them were said to me, some of them by me and some just overheard. Because of the lack of filtering, I will not be stating who said what. If you read something that you said and you want to claim it as your own feel free to leave a comment, but in all honesty, you probably won’t want to. I will also not be giving the quotes any context. There are two reasons for this: 1. If I gave every quote a back story this post would go on forever. 2. Most of them are twice as funny without any context!

Sometimes you just gotta lick a taint!

You bitch! (Honestly, I am sure this was said several times throughout the weekend, but one time in particular stands out to me.)

Person 1: Did you guys spoon?                                                                                     Person 2: Oh, we banged.                                                                                                Person 1: But that ruins the illusion for me!                                                                Person 2: But we banged. It can’t be undone!

It’s like Jesus but with a really big d**k!

I am trying to eat and you people are talking about horse c**k!

Freeze the vag, save the world!

Stop pooping! Let’s go eat!

Person 1: You take one leg, I will get the other!                                                        Person 2: I get the middle! I pay him, I get the middle!

Just STOP! (10 second pause) collaborate and listen!

Everybody wash you hands with soap. He pissed himself!

Hey Twin! Throw me a towel!

Have him grab some cups or we will all have herpes.

I sleep in head to toe latex. It makes a lot of noise when there is movement, so don’t struggle.

526……BEER!

I was hoping for a lap dance, that is why I stayed in the chair.

I am positive that there are some fantastic moments in worddom that I have missed, but that is what happens when you try and remember all of the things spewed forth my yourself and others through a weekend fueled by alcohol and amazing music.

♥ Ty

 

 

Jelly Don’t Shake Like That!

May has arrived! That means one very special thing! Spring has arrived? Pffft, I don’t know about where you are from, but spring seemed to arrive here in freaking February this year! Nope, we don’t give a rat’s patootie that spring has sprung. May means a short break for After Dark! Calm yourselves. I said SHORT break, and it is for the best reason ever……..IT’S JAM TIME!!!!

Meegan, LadyGlory, and yours truly, Tyche, will be attending the Mid-Atlantic Jam in Baltimore, MD from 5/18 to 5/21! This will be the third year After Dark takes a short break for people to get their jam on. Meegan and Ty attended the Twin Cities Jam in 2016 and the Mid-Atlantic Jam in 2015. This year LG will be making the trip as well and it will be nothing short of EPIC!!!

It will not just be us ladies there, oh heck no, there will be a plethora of musical talent there. Honestly, it cannot be a jam without there being amazing tunes to jam to!! Among the talent that will be there for our jamming pleasure (Yes, I am fully aware I just said “jamming pleasure”) will be After Dark regulars Voodoo Shilton, Grif Bamaisin, Cellshader, Hunson Abadeer, TwinGhost Ronas and last but not least, the man who has probably attended more SL music jams that any other musician, Max Kleene!

As I did last year, I have taken it upon myself to flex my artistic license and dust off my mad photo editing skills to bring you what might be the best thing you have ever seen. Through the magic of digital editing I present to you the group hug that will be happening at the jam! If that isn’t the most epic group hug, I don’t know what is! And I assure you that I will be doing my best to have this fake photo reenacted in real life!

Now that the silliness is finished, on to business. After Dark will be on hiatus from Wednesday May 17th to Monday May 22nd. We will be back to bringing you the outstanding music that you have come to know and love so well on Tuesday May 23rd!

Please try not to miss us too much, We know it is hard, but everyone needs a little break sometimes. It is not you, it is us, we swear! Remember, if you love something, set it free to jam, and if it returns to you then you know that love is real!

 

Tell Ty Vol 10!

I know, I know. “But Ty, you JUST did a Tell Ty!” I sure as shoot did, and I might do another one after this one. Heck, this blog might be nothing but Tell Ty from here on out!* That is the fantastic thing about writing a blog. It can be about anything I want it to be!**

So here we are with another installment of the always entertaining, sometimes educational, Tell Ty! Not up to date on the older ones or have no idea what I am talking about? First, shame on you! Second, you can find links to the oldies but goodies Vol 3, Vol 4, Vol 5, Vol 6, Vol 7, Vol 8, Vol 9, the other Vol 9 because I cannot count! Volumes 1 and 2 are missing in action sucked into the interweb abyss somewhere.

This round we are going to concentrate on some of the faces you see around After Dark. Not the musicians or the staff, but those who are out there shaking it, enjoying the tunage, perving the profiles of others. The amazing patrons of After Dark Lounge! I know that I normally give a little blurb about each person before I share their replies, but this one is going to be a little different. Some of these people are my friends, some of them are people I have greeted time and time again and some of them are people that I might never have said a “hello” to….until now!

Tell Ty Volume 10!

Keith Ringgold

  1. Tell me something random.                                                                           uhhhhhh okay…… random…..  I pooped today?… no no.. wait.. I can do better than that…..  My HAIR is better than yours… no no.. to confrontational…. OH.. I know.. I had COFFEE for the first time in DAYS!
  2. Tell me something you think I should know about you.                                        oh… okay… well… I used to be heavy in Star Wars, even owning a SL sim called Nar Shaddaa?
  3. Tell me something that not everyone knows about you.                                          I initially built a girl avatar to help show my daughter how a young girl SHOULD dress……. I dont know about that one…

I just want to say that I would NOT want my daughter dressing like more than half of the female avatars in SL, including my own!

Naomi Annabella

  1. Tell me something random.                                                                                  Roasted garlic with goats’ cheese and a bit of fig jam on toasted pita bread is probably the most mouth watering orgasm you could ever experience.  Is that random enough?  LOL
  2. Tell me something you think I should know about you.                                          Tough one.  I am 100% ambidextrous and can verbally spell words backwards.  Always could!  Almost skipped two grades growing up because of it, however my mother wouldn’t allow it.
  3. Tell me something that not everyone knows about you.                                           I lived in Spain for a year and worked riding horses on the beach – a riding assistant for a small boutique Spanish (high end) ranch that hosted a maximum of 8 international guests per week.  I lived in a hamlet far, far away from society filled with Spanish guitar, Flamenco, paella and lots and lots of red wine and gorgeous sunsets.  I was on horseback 6 days a week for 6-8 hours a day.  I’m not sure coming home to finish my English degree was worth it. That experience made me the person I am today and I STILL dream in Spanish <3

I dreamed in Spanish once, boy oh boy was I confused!

Really Ansome

  1. Tell me something random.                                                                                Cashews are the greatest things on the planet.
  2. Tell me something you think I should know about you.                                            It hurts to know I have a greeting ban on me at one of my favourite venues.
  3. Tell me something that not everyone knows about you.                                        I’m not really a complete asshole.  Just sometimes 🙂

I would just like to state for the record that I did not choose the picture used for Really’s reply. He sent it to me when I asked if he had a photo he would like me to use. Swear on a rock!

R. Crap Mariner

  1. Tell me something random.                                                                                     How do you saw The Pope’s hat in half? Use a mitre saw.
  2. Tell me something that you think I should know about you.                                      I don’t like doing interviews. I prefer to let my writing speak for itself.
  3. Tell me something not everyone knows about you.                                                   No.

Boom! There you have it! Another volume of Tell Ty is in the books. Now if you need me, I will be over here working on my counting….smh.

♥ Ty

* It will not be all Tell Ty from here on out. I promise                                                        ** Within reason…..management  has to reel me in from time to time.

Tell Ty Vol 9 AND How’d You Get Here Vol 5!

What?!?!?! A Tell Ty AND a How’d You Get Here in the same post! Has the world gone crazycakes! Actually, it has, but that has nothing to do with this post. You know the drill when it comes to both of these much anticipated types of posts. If you don’t then shame on you! Once you realize what you have done feel free to click here and here to find the lists of previous volumes.

She is an icon in her own right. You have seen her at After Dark many a time and at the helm of Guerilla Burlesque. Her image is featured on the After Dark show posters that you see plastered on Facebook. She is a director, producer, photographer, DJ, writer, dancer, explorer and the matriarch of Idle Rogue. She is the one, the only cherryblonde Scribe, aka Cherry to many.  .
As Idle Rogue celebrates its 6th year of greatness on the grid, there is no better way to honor that than by featuring the fearless leader. On a side note, if you have never explored Idle Rogue outside of After Dark, you need to. The sim is utterly amazing. Get out, wander a bit. It is well worth it!
Tell Ty Volume 10
1. Tell me something random.
10-20% of women have never experienced an orgasm. This is a travesty.
2. Tell me something you think I should know about you.
I’m not very good at “random”
3. Tell me something that not everyone know about you.
I once made a valve guide for a Harley Davidson to 0.00+/- tolerance. I have also cleaned up a game of pool from the break and topped out on 180 in a game of darts. I have a misspent youth 😉
I have to agree, the fact behind the random statement is a travesty! Those poor things! I would also like to add that there is nothing wrong with a misspent youth when said youth becomes as amazing as cherry is as an adult.
How’d You Get Here Volume 5
Curiously, when I first logged on to Second Life, the major Australian telco had a portal and their own sim, and many Australians came to SL through The Ponds Estate. Because they’re a corporate entity, they didn’t allow music streaming on-sim, you had to listen externally to DJs and they didn’t have live musicians. It didn’t take long to break out of the walled garden though!
I had been to a few musicians but hadn’t really taken to it – surprisingly, because music is my passion – when I got a notice from an art gallery for a live music event. It was JimmyT49 Dukes, and my entire world, in both lives, changed right there. I had been at home with my youngest child for 6 years, and was missing live music in ways that pervaded everything … and listening to Jimmy Dukes, I realised, I could have it back, I could go to live concerts and hear great music.
There’s not as much of the kind of live music I like in Second Life, I’m a rock chick and I love the band sound, which is hard to do and not lucrative enough to draw the kind of talent I dream about. But I’ll wait 😉
Cherry also asked that I add the following statement:
please like me on facebook, I need a friend
https://www.facebook.com/chryblnd/
You really should. She posts interesting things……..not the drivel you see all too often on social media!

Fun, frivolity and other F-words

I have been writing this blog for about 2.5 years. I have been a patron at After Dark for 6 months to a year more than that. I write silliness, frivolity, the occasional complete and utter bullsh*t that I make up in my twisted little mind and every once in a while something that is serious or touching. The silliness and frivolity are what make me happiest and dammit, I want some happiness right now!

I am not just a total goofball who comes up with this stuff out of no where. No! I am a partial goofball that is inspired by her environment. The level of musical awesome that can be witnessed at After Dark is, no doubt, mind boggling. The level of insanity that takes place at After Dark, aside from the music is the kind of stuff that makes me laugh till I have tears in my eyes and by belly hurts. I have seen things, read things, hell, done things at After Dark that cannot be (and never should be) unseen, unread or undone!

Let’s play a little game! Ever heard of 2 Truths and a Lie? If you have not the name pretty much lays it out there. Three statements are given. Two of them are true and one is a lie. Easy peasy! Here we go!

1. I have overheard in local chat at After Dark:

  1. “lol Brady it’s a tip jar not a thong”
  2. “Giraffes and rats can last longer without water than camels.”
  3. ” i crash like a nearsighted grandpa on ambien”

2. I have experienced the following griefing at After Dark:

  1. Flying hamburgers
  2. The floor constantly moving sideways and taking the people in the club with it
  3. An audio takeover where the live music was replaced with Kenny G

3. I have witnessed at After Dark:

  1. A musician performing a heartfelt tribute to their recently deceased goldfish
  2. A musician performing as Oscar the Grouch
  3. A musician streaking during another musician’s set

4. I have also witnessed at After Dark:

  1. A patron table dancing in the back of the club for two gentlemen
  2. A patron leading a marching band through the club
  3. A patron just plain forgetting to wear pants

5. As if those were not enough, I have additionally witnessed at After Dark:

  1. A man trying on women’s hair at the request of the owner
  2. Patrons dressed as a piñata, a bunny, Santa, a skeleton and an angel
  3. Meegan showing zero skin from the neck down

6. Things I have done at After Dark

  1. Traded “favors” for half a ham sandwich
  2. Twerked while dressed as a nun
  3. Danced with an inflatable doll while dressed as a canned adult beverage

And a bonus question!!!!!

7 Things I have learned at After Dark

  1. True love is fried chicken and a blow job.
  2. Playing the udu is not as dirty as it sounds
  3. Quantum physics

So…..how do you think you did? Were the lies easy to pick out, or did you struggle with which to choose as well as with putting your brain around half of the statements you just read? I will give you the answers in a moment, but first I think we need to take the time to reflect on how amazing it is that most of the statements above are true! Seriously, there is a lot of truth up there and it is wonderful insanity!

The lies are as follows:

  1. “Giraffes and rats can last longer without water than camels.”
  2. An audio takeover where the live music was replaced with Kenny G
  3. A musician performing a heartfelt tribute to their recently deceased goldfish
  4. A patron leading a marching band through the club
  5. Meegan showing zero skin from the neck down
  6. Traded “favors” for half a ham sandwich
  7. Quantum physics

If you got 1-3 of the lies right then you have either never been to After Dark or you need to start paying attention to your surroundings. If you got 4-6 of the lies right then you aren’t half bad and probably somewhat well liked by certain people. If you got 7 of the lies right then you are the ultimate, mega-awesome, good time fun person! What did you win? NOTHING! Though you get the satisfaction of knowing that you know things and you can spot a lie from across the grid!

 

 

 

Two! Four! Six! Eight!

How do you appreciate?

Appreciation is defined as “the recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something.” Appreciation can be shown in a number of different ways. A pet might show appreciation for their owner with a lick on the face. An employer might show appreciation for an employee by awarding them “Employee of the Month”.  A patron sitting in pervert’s row at a strip club will show their appreciation by putting money in a stripper’s g-string. That same stripper might show appreciation for a patron’s tip by makin dat ass clap. A rabid music fan might show their appreciation for their favorite musician by tossing their skivvies on stage. I think you get the picture.

No! I am not telling you that you all need to start throwing your unmentionables on stage at After Dark Lounge! I am not necessarily saying that would be a terrible thing, but I am in no way telling you it is what you should do! What I am saying is that there are a lot of ways to show your appreciation to venues and musicians. The most obvious is by tipping, But sometimes funds are low. Maybe you have been attending a lot of shows and it has taken a toll on your bankroll. Or maybe you gachaed yourself into brokesville. No matter the reason, there are ways to show a venue and musicians that you love what they are doing.

Show up. No one likes playing to an empty house. If a musician you love is playing, go see them. Being able to tip is awesome, but you being there means more to them than the $L. Happy musicians are easier to deal with than grumpy ones and easy to deal with musicians always make the venue owners happy.

Tell them you appreciate them. If you love a venue, tell the owner. Let them know what a great place you think they are running. Tell them that you love what they are doing. The same goes for musicians. Did they play something in particular that really spoke to you? Tell them. Maybe you are just a long time fan of all of their work. Tell them! Everyone likes to hear that they are doing something that people enjoy. Yes, tips are awesome and they keep the music coming, but a heartfelt “Man, this rocks!” IM can go a long way towards making someone feel amazing.

Join groups. Yes, we all know that group space in SL can be very precious. Sure, you might get a free pair of shoes from a clothing group, but from a venue or musician’s group you can keep up with all of the comings and goings. It is hands down the best way to keep up with all that is going on with the music and places you love. If you so wish, you can click the blue to join After Dark’s group or Idle Rogue’s group.

Make use of social media. Did you know that After Dark Lounge has a Facebook page? So does Meegan Danitz and Idle Rogue and probably most of the musicians that you know and love. Like their pages! Share their posts! Review them! Spread the word about the things that you enjoy in Secondlife, You never know, there might be some distant friend on your list who has never heard of some of the awesomeness that exists in SL.

So you see, there are a lot of ways to show your appreciation for the people, places and things that you love in SL. Be that patron sitting in pervert’s row and show those that you enjoy just how much you enjoy them!

 

Mardi O…..M…..Gras!

This coming Tuesday is Fat Tuesday. The culmination of the Mardi Gras celebration. You know good and well that After Dark loves a theme and there is no more fitting theme for After Dark than Mardi Gras. Beads, booze, boobs, gluttony, glutes and gorgeous people! Speaking of….do you all remember the time that the After Dark crew road tripped to New Orleans to take place in all of the debaucherous mayhem? Oh, you don’t? Ha! Neither do they. They had such a wild weekend that most of it only exists as small hazy glimpses. Lucky for everyone, I have a mind like a steel trap and the few photos that exist from the trip!

Every sweet road trip needs a sweet ride!

Meegan had the fantastic idea of taking the whole After Dark crew down to New Orleans as a team building exercise. It seemed like the perfect idea. Party down, build morale and write off the entire trip as a business expense! The crew gathered at After Dark on the Friday before Fat Tuesday and embarked on what would turn out to be one of the most epic road trips ever!

The trip down to NOLA was fairly uneventful. There were your typical road trip shenanigans. The screaming of “SHOT GUN!” at every stop. The eating of mass amounts of gas station junk food that inevitably lead to the need for a LOT of bathroom breaks. The singing of “99 Bottles of Beer on the Wall”, much to nearly every passenger’s dismay. The obligatory getting lost in the middle of no where and swearing that you heard someone playing a banjo at the creepy cabin where you stopped to ask for directions. You know, the usual.

Finally, the group arrived, road weary, already a little sick of one another, and ready to have the time of their lives! After settling in to the motel that can best be described as one step up from being homeless and giving themselves a good power-fluff, the crew hit the town. Almost immediately Dark went missing. One minute he was doing a body shot off of a barely half clothed octogenarian and the next minute he was gone. Everyone figured he had hooked up or passed out, but they were not worried and since he had a few days to be found they partied on.

The weekend carried on as planned. Team building exercises such as “Trust Shots” (where each team member puts their faith into the one taking the trip to the bar to order a round of shots) and physically building a human pyramid with the team were exercised throughout the weekend. At some point during round 10 of Truth Shots, Portia announced in a rather slurred voice that she was heading to bed. I believe her exact words were “I’ms out! Deushes biches!” Given the condition of the rest of the team still standing, no one had the insight to check her room when they returned to the motel and no one saw her again until Fat Tuesday.

Speaking of…..Fat Tuesday arrived and the After Dark crew that was still able to be located was ready for parades, beads and more drinks! The madness started at 8am and carried on from there. Imagine the surprise on everyone’s face when during the 2nd parade who should Shanny flash for beads but Dark! There he was riding high on a float and playing booby ring toss!

The rest of the day and night was a fuzzy blur, even for this bloggess with the memory of steel! Thank goodness LG texted me the pictures she had taken in her phone before she shattered it while diving over Meegan to grab some sweet beads that Meeg’s had barely even shown a nip for. Those few precious pictures will tell the rest of the story.

Shanny and LG showing the goods!

Knowing that flashing my boobs would mean having to sit my drink down I opted for the topless approach.

Meegan completely unwilling to put her drink down, but still getting those beads!

As Fat Tuesday was drawing to a close, everyone started to worry about Portia. She had not been seen since she stumbled out of the bar and towards the motel a few nights earlier. The group was drunkenly meandering through the streets, trying to find their friend and remember where the heck the motel was when they came across a crowd that had gathered to watch a couple dance. And who should be half of that couple? Portia freaking Red!

Scantily clad and shaking what her momma gave her, Portia and the still unnamed man!

And thus concludes the sordid tale of when After Dark hit Mardi Gras like a boss. I say sordid because I left the best bits out as they are not exactly safe for the blog and the statute of limitations on some of the things that went done might not be up!

Join us this Tuesday for a celebration of Mardi Gras at After Dark. Unlike New Orleans, you need to cover your bits and pieces for our party but we will still have an amazing time!

♥ ~Ty

 

It Takes All Kinds

There is one thing I love more about After Dark than anything else. Yes, I adore the music and the amazing company when I am there, but above all of that I love the open mindedness, the taking of all kinds. Of course there are rules that have to be followed. After Dark is on a moderate sim, so it is asked that bits and pieces are covered. Aside from that, and the rare occasion when someone does or wears something hugely inappropriate, After Dark welcomes everyone who steps through its doors with open arms and an open mind.

In the virtual realm one can be anything they want and often times what they want to be is that which they are not able to be in their first lives. That is the absolute beauty of existing in a virtual world and it should be embraced.

After Dark is a part of the Idle Rogue sim, which I am sure you know by now. Idle Rogue is a community of creative minds and in order to nurture the creative minds that Idle Rogue welcomes we as staff, patrons and performers must be open to things that might not be in our normal “comfort zone”. I am not stating that is someone makes you uncomfortable or says or does something offensive that you need to just suck it up. What I am saying is that someone rezzing as a giraffe avatar is no reason to complain to the staff or to take your complaints to local.

If you are in a situation at After Dark where someone has an avi or an object that you do not like but that is not offensive there are things you can do to make yourself feel better! Derender is your friend! Cannot see the stage because your view is blocked by something/someone? Derender! Animal avatars weird you out? Derender! A noob who has not yet learned how to navigate SL well keep running into you? Derender! Meegan’s wild hair keeps slapping you in the face? Derender! Quite honestly, there is no room to complain when you can control what you see on your screen.

I feel fairly certain that all of you know how to derender, but just in case I will break it down for you. Right click>More>Derender……you then have a choice to make the derendering temporary or you can black list the person, place or thing. The choice is yours and you control your SL! At the same time, the places that you visit in SL have the choice to make the experience they are providing exactly what they want it to be.

As a final thought I want to leave you with some words from the Idle Rogue Facebook page, that I believe sums it all up well. “Idle Rogue is a progressive and tolerant community which has fought hard to create a space which is respectful of diversity and welcomes inclusive change. If you bring your intolerance or your private disputes to this page or the inworld group you will be banned from it. We are not required to appease bigots and troublemakers.”