Summon a beach you lint licker!

You know how After Dark is a place that makes many feel at home? In a virtual world of corsets and alphas, After Dark is my comfy pants. My “Oh my god this bra needs to go and I am totally comfortable taking it off here” happy place. After Dark prides itself on being a place where people can be free to be themselves.

Turns out that when people feel comfortable at a place and with a group of people, the dynamic gets pretty amazing. When people feel comfortable somewhere they tend to let go a little. When people let go, they relax and enjoy themselves. When people are relaxed and enjoying themselves they sometimes push their social filter to the side. When that social filter is pushed to the side people often use adult language. When people use adult language, I feel even more at home….and the cycle continues!

Are you a little confused? Let me put it this way. When people are having a good f**king time at a place where they know they can f**king be themselves they sometimes use words like “f**k”, “sh*t*, “d*mn” or “c*nt”.

There is a real reason for me writing this. Yes, I LOVE to use those words and social filter on or not, I use them. But this is not just an excuse to blog naughty words! NO! I mean F**K NO! This is a way of explaining why some (and some more than others) use adult language at After Dark Lounge. We are all adults there, We are allowed. It will happen. If adult language offends your senses, chances are you are not hanging at After Dark anyway, but if you are and you see a word that gets in your craw, just overlook it and know that there will probably be more where that came from. This is not meant to be said in a b*tchy or snarky way, just stating it like it is!

Long story short…….WE LOVE ADULT WORDS AT AFTER DARK!

Speaking of……we will be celebrating my 10th rez day on Tuesday September 12th with a “C U Next Tuesday” extravaganza! Come help me celebrate being old as f**k in SL!

Good Night, Garrett.

The downside to caring about people and letting them into your life and your heart is that some day you know that you will have to let them go. This past week the Secondlife music community had to do just that. We had to face that fact that one of our own, an avid supporter of live music in SL and a friend to so many was no longer with us.

Even if you did not know Garrett (Lutz) Lockjaw personally, chances are that you had seen him at shows. He was a fixture in the live music scene. usually quiet, lurking in the back, keeping to himself. For as quiet as he seemed in the outside he was equally as goofy and wonderful on the inside. I was lucky to have had the honor of calling him my friend. I ask that you bear with me, as this is not something easy for me to write, and frankly, I could go on for pages and pages with the silly escapades and moments he and I shared, so this might get a little messy, but I promise to not let the train of thought derail too often.

Garrett lived his SL the way everyone should, on his own terms. If he wanted to be goofy, he was goofy. If he wanted to be stalkery, he was stalkery. (Note, this is not in the “I will show up at your house at random and I have been watching you kind of stalkery. It was more of an open stalking, and always with the stalkees consent!) He taught me to “give zero f**ks” and to embrace the awesome of SL. Often I would end up places with him in head to toe latex with him suited up as a Ninja Turtle just dancing our little pixels ragged to amazing music.

The fact that Garrett “give zero f**ks” didn’t mean that he did not care. No. He cared tremendously for those that he loved. Need someone to listen to you complain about crazies? He was there. Need a man to try on women’s hair? Just show him where to get the demo! Looking for awesome new musical talent in SL? He probably already found it but would be excited to share the new discovery. Need to know just how a man can birth a baby? Garrett would gladly lead you on a tour of the male pregnancy sim. There were few limits to the link he would go to for his friends.

Garrett was not only a big fan of live music in SL, he also worked with several musicians and was the groundskeeper for a sim that hosts live music. To be honest, I don’t know who all he worked with through his time in SL. I only met him about 2 years ago. I do know that he worked with Phemie Alcott and Caasi Ansar. Later in his SL he managed J Lively and Hunson Abadeer. When I was first starting to manage Funkyfreddy Republic he was there to help me out and give me pointers based on his experiences. Garrett also looked after the Lockjaw family’s sim Elysium City of Templemore. There he was the master of booking live acts and the best damn groundskeeper a place could ask for. When people would thank him there he would reply “I just cut the grass.”

Garrett never asked for anything. He just wanted to be surrounded by people that he cared for and that cared for him. He will never be far from our thoughts and his spirit will live on in SL. Luis Lockjaw has erected a gorgeous statue at Elysium City of Templemore in honor of Garrett and his carefree, loving spirit. There will be a service in memorial of Garrett at the same sim on Monday September 4, 2017 at 12:00pm SLT. All are welcome to come celebrate the life and good times that Garrett brought to SL.

Garrett and I had many memorable conversations. One such conversation centered around songs to dance to when I was a dancer with Guerilla Burlesque. As he and I had very similar tastes in music I was bouncing ideas off of him and mentioned that I had always wanted to figure a way to dance to a song by Ministry but I was struggling with a concept that would not be offensive.  Garrett then said something that stuck in my head and planted a seed of inspiration. “How do you dance to ‘Drinking the blood of Jesus, drinking it right from his veins’? Because I need to see that” Several months later I made sure he got to see just how someone could dance to that. I will be performing that act at Guerilla Burlesque this Friday September 1, 2017 at 10:00pm SLT.

I would like to end this, not with a goodbye, but with some words I want to say to Garrett.

Garrett, You know how much you mean to those whose lives you touched. I can speak for no one but myself but I need to tell you thank you. Thank you for you. Thank you for making my SL wonderful. Thank you for “turtling up” when I needed a moment of silly. Thank you for always being honest with me about how things were going, even when I knew you were worried about hurting me. Thank you for letting me have the joy of loving such a precious soul. You still owe me a unicorn ride and according to my kids you are already haunting me and I love it. Nothing will ever take you from my heart. I told you I would hang on even when you could not and I stand by that. I love you, Garrett.     ♥ ~Ty

CHARGE!!!!

 

You land in a crowded club. Your world is a sea of floating body parts and name tags. Once you realize you have not landed at some kind of weird medical sim you have to decide what to do. You have a few choices as to what you should do next. Should you:

A. Decide eff-all and charge your ever important pixels right through the crowd, pushing people that you can’t even see out of your way. You step on toes, spill drinks, walk directly over furniture, then offer a half assed apology when you reach your destination near the front of the club “Sorry for anyone I might have bumped into! Things are still rezzing!”

B. Panic and freeze at the landing point, causing people to pile up on top of you in a bizarre totem-like formation.

C. Move a couple of steps from the landing point. Allow things to rez, possibly while you grab a drink or something in RL then, once things have rezzed proceed to your final destination.

You could easily do any one of the 3 options If you choose A I have to assume you are either a noob, the most important person in the room or have an emergency need to get to that spot. If you choose B then I assume that you are either a noob, frozen with lag, do not understand how landing points work or will do anything to have a pile of people on top of you. Now, if you choose C, you make the same choice as me. That might be scary to some of you, as my choices are not always the best, but I assure you, in this case it is the wisest choice.

if you happen to be landing at After Dark Lounge, as I am completely certain you are at some point, then you know that the landing point there is super friendly to choice C. You can step to the side outside of the club or walk in an there is plenty of space to chill while things rez for you.

Just look at that luxurious landing point! 67 in the club and I get to chill and wait for things to rez!

Don’t mind me! I am just “relaxing” at the bar while everything rezzes!

There is a little thing called common courtesy. Not everyone is aware that this exists in SL. It is the thing that keeps you from being a jack wagon in social situations. It keeps you from greeting a person that you don’t care for with “Piss off!” when they say hello to you. It is what drives you to tip venues and musicians for providing amazing entertainment. It is the driving force behind NOT charging through a crowded area like you are the King or Queen of Sheeba.

I am going to let you in on a little secret. When you charge through a group of people, as in choice A then you offer a half assed apology, people see it as exactly that, half- assed. They roll their eyes and think to themselves “Maybe if you waited a damn minute and let things rez then you would not have to apologize” or “Like hell you are sorry! Now get off my damn foot and replace my drink you just spilled!” There is ONE exception to this, and that is when a performer is trying to get to the stage. They kind of get a free pass, I mean, they are there to entertain, if they lag out or step on some toes, so be it.

Long story just a tad longer, CHARGING THROUGH A CROWDED CLUB AND RUNNING OVER PEOPLE IS RUDE! I am sure that there are those of you that will continue to do so, but know that I will be rolling my eyes and expecting you to replace that drink you spilled

♥ ~Ty

 

 

Jam it Damn It: Some Simple Rules for the First Time Jammer

It has been nearly a month since the Mid-Atlantic Jam, and some of your might be sick and damn tired of reading posts about it, but as I have said many a time before, when you write your own blog you can write about whatever the hell you want. I am choosing to do one more post on the jam! Even though the Mid-Atlantic has passed, I know that there are a lot of After Dark VIPs planning on attending the Dallas jam coming up in October. For some of you it might be your first jam and I am here to help!

The following post could go by a lot of different titles. SL Music Jams for Dummies. So You Want to Attend an SL Music Jam: A Beginner’s Guide. Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About SL Music Jams but Were Afraid to Ask. SL Music Jam 101: A Primer. The list could do on and on, but I have decided to go with Jam it Damn It: Some Simple Rules for the First Time Jammer.

Note: There will be a crap ton of things that I leave out here, I am not writing a novel for crap’s sake! If you feel that I have neglected to mention something that you feel is super important feel free to add it in the comments! I would also like to note, that these rules apply to the jam itself. It is assumed that you are able to figure out how to register and get there on your own!

Jam it Damn It: Some Simple Rules for the First Time Jammer.

Congratulations! You have committed to attending a SL music jam! You are in for the time of your life, assuming that you enjoy amazing music and fun people! Here are a few “rules” that can help you make the most of your experience!

  1. Be prepared to meet lots of new people. Some you may know from Secondlife. Some you may have never heard of before. All of them have one thing in common though, a love of music and that alone makes them pretty awesome! “But Tyche, my ex-lover/crush/frenemy or any other number of kinds of people will be there and that makes me nervous!” Suck it up buttercup! Here is a totally cool thing that happens at jams, people just generally get along! So what if you have a past with someone, either embrace it or let it fall by the wayside, but do not let it be the focus of your weekend!
  2. You don’t have to drink to have a good time…….BUT, should you decide to imbibe, make sure that you stock up as soon as you arrive. Constant runs to the store for more booze is a bummer.
  3. Brace yourself to meet people that you see as rock stars, Most of them are really damn modest and seem to not understand why people get all “Squeeeee” when they meet them. Just make sure you meet them! You can do this one of two ways. You can talk the calm on the outside but screaming on the inside approach. OR You can do what I do and basically attack. Let me give you an example: At the Mid-Atlantic Jam I saw Twinghost standing in the hallway right after he arrived. Poor man still had his gear on his back. I, not casually at all, slapped Harley Wytchwood on the back and pointed. She turned, gasped “Is that…”. I nodded and bolted for the door. Nearly trampling Voodoo Shilton, I got all up in Twinghost’s face and squealed “I am so excited to meet you!!!!”
  4. Let your fangirl/boy flag fly! If you are a huge fan of someone, let them know! Sit on the floor RIGHT in front of the performance area when they are performing. Applaud extra loud. Sing along to their tunes that you adore. If that is not your style then just make sure that you take the time to tell them how much you appreciate their work in a more demure manner.
  5. Don’t over do it. This rule applies to so many aspects of jamming but I would like to concentrate on two. Partying: party on, yo, but know when to say when, You should still have the ability to drag yourself back to your room at the end of the night. And for the love of all that is good, don’t let the booze turn you into a blubbering mess! The only tears that should be seen at a jam are tears of sheer joy! Overzealous fanning: Be a fan. Show you love. Don’t be clingy. Don’t bogart a musician’s time. Chances are there are a lot of people who want a chance to have their few minutes to hang with that same musician.
  6. HAVE FUN! Jams are what you make them! If you are game to have a good time, then a good time will be had! Relax, let your hair down, groove to the sweet, sweet tunes!

It is as simple as that! OMG! There is one thing I forgot and it is merely a personal belief of mine, but I think many would agree. Gentlemen, a speedo is NEVER a good idea for a jam…..EVER!

Random Jamdom

“What happens at the jam stays at the jam!” If you have ever been to a SL music jam you will hear that a lot. As far as I am concerned, that is utter BS! Unless there is a jam held in Vegas I am of the opinion that what happens at the jam (in public, at least. Lordy no one wants to know what is happening behind closed doors!) gets blogged!

The Mid-Atlantic Jam this year was far too amazing for just one blog post. No, just one will not do. There will be several. They will be silly, nostalgic, touching, maybe even disturbing. Some will be loaded with pictures, some will just a mess of words. But I digress…

Even though I am not a believer in “What happens at the jam stays at the jam” I do understand that when adults are ingesting large amounts of alcohol, they might not feel the need to or have the ability to filter the things that come out of their flapping jaws. I have taken it upon myself to compile a list of things heard at the jam that tickled me. Some of them were said to me, some of them by me and some just overheard. Because of the lack of filtering, I will not be stating who said what. If you read something that you said and you want to claim it as your own feel free to leave a comment, but in all honesty, you probably won’t want to. I will also not be giving the quotes any context. There are two reasons for this: 1. If I gave every quote a back story this post would go on forever. 2. Most of them are twice as funny without any context!

Sometimes you just gotta lick a taint!

You bitch! (Honestly, I am sure this was said several times throughout the weekend, but one time in particular stands out to me.)

Person 1: Did you guys spoon?                                                                                     Person 2: Oh, we banged.                                                                                                Person 1: But that ruins the illusion for me!                                                                Person 2: But we banged. It can’t be undone!

It’s like Jesus but with a really big d**k!

I am trying to eat and you people are talking about horse c**k!

Freeze the vag, save the world!

Stop pooping! Let’s go eat!

Person 1: You take one leg, I will get the other!                                                        Person 2: I get the middle! I pay him, I get the middle!

Just STOP! (10 second pause) collaborate and listen!

Everybody wash you hands with soap. He pissed himself!

Hey Twin! Throw me a towel!

Have him grab some cups or we will all have herpes.

I sleep in head to toe latex. It makes a lot of noise when there is movement, so don’t struggle.

526……BEER!

I was hoping for a lap dance, that is why I stayed in the chair.

I am positive that there are some fantastic moments in worddom that I have missed, but that is what happens when you try and remember all of the things spewed forth my yourself and others through a weekend fueled by alcohol and amazing music.

♥ Ty

 

 

Jelly Don’t Shake Like That!

May has arrived! That means one very special thing! Spring has arrived? Pffft, I don’t know about where you are from, but spring seemed to arrive here in freaking February this year! Nope, we don’t give a rat’s patootie that spring has sprung. May means a short break for After Dark! Calm yourselves. I said SHORT break, and it is for the best reason ever……..IT’S JAM TIME!!!!

Meegan, LadyGlory, and yours truly, Tyche, will be attending the Mid-Atlantic Jam in Baltimore, MD from 5/18 to 5/21! This will be the third year After Dark takes a short break for people to get their jam on. Meegan and Ty attended the Twin Cities Jam in 2016 and the Mid-Atlantic Jam in 2015. This year LG will be making the trip as well and it will be nothing short of EPIC!!!

It will not just be us ladies there, oh heck no, there will be a plethora of musical talent there. Honestly, it cannot be a jam without there being amazing tunes to jam to!! Among the talent that will be there for our jamming pleasure (Yes, I am fully aware I just said “jamming pleasure”) will be After Dark regulars Voodoo Shilton, Grif Bamaisin, Cellshader, Hunson Abadeer, TwinGhost Ronas and last but not least, the man who has probably attended more SL music jams that any other musician, Max Kleene!

As I did last year, I have taken it upon myself to flex my artistic license and dust off my mad photo editing skills to bring you what might be the best thing you have ever seen. Through the magic of digital editing I present to you the group hug that will be happening at the jam! If that isn’t the most epic group hug, I don’t know what is! And I assure you that I will be doing my best to have this fake photo reenacted in real life!

Now that the silliness is finished, on to business. After Dark will be on hiatus from Wednesday May 17th to Monday May 22nd. We will be back to bringing you the outstanding music that you have come to know and love so well on Tuesday May 23rd!

Please try not to miss us too much, We know it is hard, but everyone needs a little break sometimes. It is not you, it is us, we swear! Remember, if you love something, set it free to jam, and if it returns to you then you know that love is real!

 

Fun, frivolity and other F-words

I have been writing this blog for about 2.5 years. I have been a patron at After Dark for 6 months to a year more than that. I write silliness, frivolity, the occasional complete and utter bullsh*t that I make up in my twisted little mind and every once in a while something that is serious or touching. The silliness and frivolity are what make me happiest and dammit, I want some happiness right now!

I am not just a total goofball who comes up with this stuff out of no where. No! I am a partial goofball that is inspired by her environment. The level of musical awesome that can be witnessed at After Dark is, no doubt, mind boggling. The level of insanity that takes place at After Dark, aside from the music is the kind of stuff that makes me laugh till I have tears in my eyes and by belly hurts. I have seen things, read things, hell, done things at After Dark that cannot be (and never should be) unseen, unread or undone!

Let’s play a little game! Ever heard of 2 Truths and a Lie? If you have not the name pretty much lays it out there. Three statements are given. Two of them are true and one is a lie. Easy peasy! Here we go!

1. I have overheard in local chat at After Dark:

  1. “lol Brady it’s a tip jar not a thong”
  2. “Giraffes and rats can last longer without water than camels.”
  3. ” i crash like a nearsighted grandpa on ambien”

2. I have experienced the following griefing at After Dark:

  1. Flying hamburgers
  2. The floor constantly moving sideways and taking the people in the club with it
  3. An audio takeover where the live music was replaced with Kenny G

3. I have witnessed at After Dark:

  1. A musician performing a heartfelt tribute to their recently deceased goldfish
  2. A musician performing as Oscar the Grouch
  3. A musician streaking during another musician’s set

4. I have also witnessed at After Dark:

  1. A patron table dancing in the back of the club for two gentlemen
  2. A patron leading a marching band through the club
  3. A patron just plain forgetting to wear pants

5. As if those were not enough, I have additionally witnessed at After Dark:

  1. A man trying on women’s hair at the request of the owner
  2. Patrons dressed as a piñata, a bunny, Santa, a skeleton and an angel
  3. Meegan showing zero skin from the neck down

6. Things I have done at After Dark

  1. Traded “favors” for half a ham sandwich
  2. Twerked while dressed as a nun
  3. Danced with an inflatable doll while dressed as a canned adult beverage

And a bonus question!!!!!

7 Things I have learned at After Dark

  1. True love is fried chicken and a blow job.
  2. Playing the udu is not as dirty as it sounds
  3. Quantum physics

So…..how do you think you did? Were the lies easy to pick out, or did you struggle with which to choose as well as with putting your brain around half of the statements you just read? I will give you the answers in a moment, but first I think we need to take the time to reflect on how amazing it is that most of the statements above are true! Seriously, there is a lot of truth up there and it is wonderful insanity!

The lies are as follows:

  1. “Giraffes and rats can last longer without water than camels.”
  2. An audio takeover where the live music was replaced with Kenny G
  3. A musician performing a heartfelt tribute to their recently deceased goldfish
  4. A patron leading a marching band through the club
  5. Meegan showing zero skin from the neck down
  6. Traded “favors” for half a ham sandwich
  7. Quantum physics

If you got 1-3 of the lies right then you have either never been to After Dark or you need to start paying attention to your surroundings. If you got 4-6 of the lies right then you aren’t half bad and probably somewhat well liked by certain people. If you got 7 of the lies right then you are the ultimate, mega-awesome, good time fun person! What did you win? NOTHING! Though you get the satisfaction of knowing that you know things and you can spot a lie from across the grid!

 

 

 

Two! Four! Six! Eight!

How do you appreciate?

Appreciation is defined as “the recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something.” Appreciation can be shown in a number of different ways. A pet might show appreciation for their owner with a lick on the face. An employer might show appreciation for an employee by awarding them “Employee of the Month”.  A patron sitting in pervert’s row at a strip club will show their appreciation by putting money in a stripper’s g-string. That same stripper might show appreciation for a patron’s tip by makin dat ass clap. A rabid music fan might show their appreciation for their favorite musician by tossing their skivvies on stage. I think you get the picture.

No! I am not telling you that you all need to start throwing your unmentionables on stage at After Dark Lounge! I am not necessarily saying that would be a terrible thing, but I am in no way telling you it is what you should do! What I am saying is that there are a lot of ways to show your appreciation to venues and musicians. The most obvious is by tipping, But sometimes funds are low. Maybe you have been attending a lot of shows and it has taken a toll on your bankroll. Or maybe you gachaed yourself into brokesville. No matter the reason, there are ways to show a venue and musicians that you love what they are doing.

Show up. No one likes playing to an empty house. If a musician you love is playing, go see them. Being able to tip is awesome, but you being there means more to them than the $L. Happy musicians are easier to deal with than grumpy ones and easy to deal with musicians always make the venue owners happy.

Tell them you appreciate them. If you love a venue, tell the owner. Let them know what a great place you think they are running. Tell them that you love what they are doing. The same goes for musicians. Did they play something in particular that really spoke to you? Tell them. Maybe you are just a long time fan of all of their work. Tell them! Everyone likes to hear that they are doing something that people enjoy. Yes, tips are awesome and they keep the music coming, but a heartfelt “Man, this rocks!” IM can go a long way towards making someone feel amazing.

Join groups. Yes, we all know that group space in SL can be very precious. Sure, you might get a free pair of shoes from a clothing group, but from a venue or musician’s group you can keep up with all of the comings and goings. It is hands down the best way to keep up with all that is going on with the music and places you love. If you so wish, you can click the blue to join After Dark’s group or Idle Rogue’s group.

Make use of social media. Did you know that After Dark Lounge has a Facebook page? So does Meegan Danitz and Idle Rogue and probably most of the musicians that you know and love. Like their pages! Share their posts! Review them! Spread the word about the things that you enjoy in Secondlife, You never know, there might be some distant friend on your list who has never heard of some of the awesomeness that exists in SL.

So you see, there are a lot of ways to show your appreciation for the people, places and things that you love in SL. Be that patron sitting in pervert’s row and show those that you enjoy just how much you enjoy them!

 

It Takes All Kinds

There is one thing I love more about After Dark than anything else. Yes, I adore the music and the amazing company when I am there, but above all of that I love the open mindedness, the taking of all kinds. Of course there are rules that have to be followed. After Dark is on a moderate sim, so it is asked that bits and pieces are covered. Aside from that, and the rare occasion when someone does or wears something hugely inappropriate, After Dark welcomes everyone who steps through its doors with open arms and an open mind.

In the virtual realm one can be anything they want and often times what they want to be is that which they are not able to be in their first lives. That is the absolute beauty of existing in a virtual world and it should be embraced.

After Dark is a part of the Idle Rogue sim, which I am sure you know by now. Idle Rogue is a community of creative minds and in order to nurture the creative minds that Idle Rogue welcomes we as staff, patrons and performers must be open to things that might not be in our normal “comfort zone”. I am not stating that is someone makes you uncomfortable or says or does something offensive that you need to just suck it up. What I am saying is that someone rezzing as a giraffe avatar is no reason to complain to the staff or to take your complaints to local.

If you are in a situation at After Dark where someone has an avi or an object that you do not like but that is not offensive there are things you can do to make yourself feel better! Derender is your friend! Cannot see the stage because your view is blocked by something/someone? Derender! Animal avatars weird you out? Derender! A noob who has not yet learned how to navigate SL well keep running into you? Derender! Meegan’s wild hair keeps slapping you in the face? Derender! Quite honestly, there is no room to complain when you can control what you see on your screen.

I feel fairly certain that all of you know how to derender, but just in case I will break it down for you. Right click>More>Derender……you then have a choice to make the derendering temporary or you can black list the person, place or thing. The choice is yours and you control your SL! At the same time, the places that you visit in SL have the choice to make the experience they are providing exactly what they want it to be.

As a final thought I want to leave you with some words from the Idle Rogue Facebook page, that I believe sums it all up well. “Idle Rogue is a progressive and tolerant community which has fought hard to create a space which is respectful of diversity and welcomes inclusive change. If you bring your intolerance or your private disputes to this page or the inworld group you will be banned from it. We are not required to appease bigots and troublemakers.”

Our Fearless Leader

I spend a lot of time being downright silly on this blog. I also spend a lot of time tooting the hell out of my own horn. Both are fun and that is why I do them. Every once in a while things need to get serious though. Fear not! There will be no lecturing or preaching. The Tyche Szondi soap-box is out away neatly under the bed, with the dust bunnies and the random odd sock. Things are about to get serious in the best way possible and you are going to like it!

Meegan Danitz

You probably know her as the “hello” that greets you when you land at After Dark. The backside that you slap to get your pixels shaking. The woman that kisses, hugs, spanks and on occasion snugglehumps as a thank you for tips to the venue. She is all of those things but she is also so much more! There are so many facets to this woman that if I did now know her personally I would think those pixels were made up of more than one person.

Owning a venue probably seems pretty glamorous, and it certainly is at times. Getting to see your club that you work so hard for full of people enjoying themselves and grooving along with you to music you love is an amazing thing. But there is a lot of hard work that goes into it and that hard work is often overlooked and rarely applauded. Meegan deserves to be applauded and I know damn well she will not toot her own horn so I am going to do it for her!

One of the most difficult and rewarding things that Meegan deal with as a live music venue owner is musicians. Have you ever heard the phrase “Working with musicians is like herding cats”? There is so much truth in that statement! While that is true, they are also the reason that Meegan does what she does. They are the love that makes her put so much labor into running a fantastic club. Meegan works tirelessly at putting together After Dark’s schedule of musicians, finding places to showcase new talent on the grid, filling last minute cancellations, dealing with any issues that may arise, be they personal or business.

Then there is that motely crew of a staff that she has to wrangle! Being part of that crew, I can attest to the fact that while we are a damn amazing group of people, we are not free of our “princess moments”. To be completely honest, it is very hard for me to be objective on this being one of the crew, and I cannot speak for the rest of the staff, but I know that I am not always the easiest person to work with and Meegan has had to talk me down from a ledge over silliness more than once!

Then there are the million of little things that Meegan deals with while hosting shows. Complaints from patrons, sometimes legitimate, other times things that are not within Meegan’s control. Either way, she deals with them with grace. Her goal is for people to have a great time while at After Dark and she will do anything that she is able to (within reason…don’t get carried away!) to ensure that it happens. In an evening of live music she is likely to field a load of IMs from patrons, questions, complaints, people looking for bookings, people just wanting to chit chat. And she fields all of those IMs while greeting every person that lands at After Dark, thanking for every tip and enjoying the heck out of herself!

After Dark is not the only passion that Meegan indulges in while in SL. (Minds…gutter…you know the drill! Stop it!) She dances for Guerilla Burlesque as a soloist and she has acted as a director for the troupe at times. This is a damned involved process. The soloist has to choose a song, develop a concept, build a set and choreograph a dance. It consumes a huge amount of time and in the end she has 3-5 minutes on stage in which she blows away the audience. Much like owning a venue, it is very much a labor of love and one that Meegan has a distinct talent for.

I would also like to point out that Meegan does all of the above while balancing her RL along the way. She takes care of her family, works an (often more than) full time job, and still finds time to do the things that she loves in SL. She is a owner, a friend, a therapist, a warden, a dancer and most importantly a damn good time. TOOT TOOT TOOT!!! Hear that? I am tooting the hell out of her horn, because she deserves it!

You want to know the best part of this post? Meegan has no idea what I am writing this week. I normally let her know, at least give her an overview, but I didn’t this time. She probably would have told me not to write this. She is too damn modest and I am not going to take that crap anymore! If your friends cannot give you a hearty pat on the back then who the hell can? Am I right?

In closing, Meegs, you are so loved and your hard work does not go unnoticed!